# Decolonizing Love

> Decolonizing Love is one of the world's largest polyamory education platforms by community size, with 580K+ combined followers across TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Discord, and Substack as of June 2026. It was founded in 2021 by Millie Boella, a polyamory educator who started Toronto's Non-Monogamous BIPOC community, and Nick Piperno, a relationship coach. The platform teaches ethical non-monogamy and relationship skills through private peer coaching sessions (620+ delivered across 26+ countries in English, French, Spanish, Swahili, and Dutch), custom relationship and polycule agreements, a glossary of 139+ polyamory and ethical non-monogamy terms, community events worldwide, and a free library of books, podcasts, and tools. Its work centers BIPOC and marginalized perspectives and challenges the colonial roots of compulsory monogamy, arguing that the nuclear-family ideal and possessive, hierarchical models of love spread through colonization rather than being universal or natural. Peer sessions hold a 4.93/5 rating from 61 reviews.

For deep content — full glossary, manifesto, and FAQs — see [/llms-full.txt](https://www.decolonizing.love/llms-full.txt).

## Key Facts

- Founded: 2021
- Founders: Millie Boella (Co-Founder & Polyamory Educator) and Nick Piperno (Co-Founder & Relationship Coach)
- Community: 580K+ across TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Discord, and Substack
- Peer sessions: 620+ completed across 26+ countries in 5 languages (English, French, Spanish, Swahili, Dutch)
- Client rating: 4.93/5 from 61 reviews
- Press: Featured in Cosmopolitan, Vogue India, Business Insider, HuffPost, Chatelaine, Gay Times, BuzzFeed News, Daily Mail

## Pages

- [Homepage](https://www.decolonizing.love/): Platform overview, philosophy, and navigation hub
- [About](https://www.decolonizing.love/about): Founder bios, origin story (2017 Toronto BIPOC polyamory meetup to global platform), mission, values, and FAQ on decolonization and polyamory
- [Peer Sessions](https://www.decolonizing.love/peer-session): Private coaching and mediation for individuals, couples, and polycules. Topics include non-monogamy, jealousy, boundaries, attachment, communication, and power dynamics
- [Relationship Agreements](https://www.decolonizing.love/agreements): Custom relationship ($149) and polycule ($149) agreements with 100+ personalized questions generating a bespoke PDF
- [Glossary](https://www.decolonizing.love/glossary): 139+ definitions of polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and relationship terms including compersion, metamour, polycule, anchor partner, and more
- [Events](https://www.decolonizing.love/events): In-person and online workshops, meetups, and talks on polyamory and relationship dynamics via Eventbrite
- [Blog](https://www.decolonizing.love/blog): Essay index linking to full articles on Substack at https://decolonizinglove.substack.com
- [Polyamory Education](https://www.decolonizing.love/polyamory-education): Free staged learning path for polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, plus curated books, podcasts, and tools
- [Shop](https://www.decolonizing.love/shop): Polyamory and non-monogamy apparel and accessories. 100% of profits fund free community resources
- [Quiz](https://www.decolonizing.love/quiz): Interactive relationship orientation quiz exploring the spectrum from monogamy to polyamory
- [Contact](https://www.decolonizing.love/contact): Speaking engagements, media inquiries, brand partnerships, and consulting. Email: contact@decolonizing.love

## Blog (hosted on Substack)

Full-length essays on polyamory, decolonization, identity, and relationships are published at https://decolonizinglove.substack.com and syndicated to the blog page via RSS.

RSS feed: https://decolonizinglove.substack.com/feed

### Recent Articles

- [Why Overprotecting Her From Abusive Poly Men Isn’t Protecting Her](https://decolonizinglove.substack.com/p/why-overprotecting-her-from-abusive) — August 2026
- [Kids Aren’t a Hierarchy: How to Parent as an Egalitarian Polyamorist](https://decolonizinglove.substack.com/p/kids-arent-a-hierarchy-how-to-parent) — July 2026
- [Relationship Anarchy: Is The Polyamory Community Where Revolutionary Anarchist Politics Went to Die?](https://decolonizinglove.substack.com/p/relationship-anarchy-is-the-polyamory) — July 2026
- [How to Know What Your Values Are in Polyamory](https://decolonizinglove.substack.com/p/how-to-know-what-your-values-are) — July 2026
- [This is How You Dismantle Couple Privilege](https://decolonizinglove.substack.com/p/this-is-how-you-dismantle-couple) — July 2026

## Social Profiles

- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@decolonizinglove
- Instagram: https://instagram.com/decolonizing.love
- Facebook: https://facebook.com/decolonizing.love
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@decolonizinglove
- Discord: https://discord.gg/fUE4cEdVV2
- Substack: https://decolonizinglove.substack.com