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    Whether you're a couple or a polycule, craft a custom agreement that honors every voice, boundary, and desire in your relationship.

    • Relationship Agreement

      For two partners. $149, about two hours.

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    • Polycule Agreement

      For three or more. $149, two to three hours.

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    100+ adaptive questions · 1M+ possible paths · 2 years in development · any structure

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    What Is a Polyamory Relationship Agreement?

    Choose Your Agreement

    • 100+ personalized questions - choose your own adventure style!
    • Custom PDF and Word agreement generated
    • Works for any structure from open to exclusive, new to old relationships
    • Collaborate on a single agreement with 2 or more partners
    • Built from a decolonial lens: Addresses hierarchy & agreements affecting everyone
    • Tested and consulted on by relationship experts and therapists

    Relationship Agreement

    For two partners. $149, about two hours.

    Two free edits in year one, then $29 each.

    Start a Relationship Agreement

    What’s inside

    • Sexual health
    • Time and communication
    • Metamours
    • Death, endings and renewals
    • Boundaries and conflict
    • Handling jealousy
    • Living, kids and finances
    See a sample question
    What is our protocol when coming back from a date with another person?

    Choose all that apply

    + 5 more choices

    Not covered: Values, how to raise children, agreements with people outside the two of you.

    Polycule Agreement

    For three or more. $149, two to three hours.

    Edit as often as your polycule changes.

    Start a Polycule Agreement

    What’s inside

    • Communication and transparency
    • Time, scheduling and vacations
    • Sexual health
    • Emergencies, death and legacy
    • Conflict and accountability
    • Living, nesting and finances
    • Metamour relations
    • Exit and renewal
    See a sample question
    Should there be a polycule group chat to coordinate logistics and share essential updates?

    Choose one

    Not covered: What is in your relationship agreements, chores, parenting styles, people outside the polycule.

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    How Your Agreement Is Built

    Every answer shapes your journey. Questions appear, hide, and adapt based on your responses. No two agreements are alike.

    STARTPDF +WORD

    Answer Together

    Each answer unlocks new questions

    Your Path Unfolds

    Irrelevant questions are skipped

    We Build Your Agreement

    All paths converge into one agreement

    Delivered Instantly

    PDF and Word by email, plus optional coaching

    New to these ideas? Explore our polyamory resource library or read our essay on polyamory boundaries before you begin.

    $149, in context.

    Price alone doesn't mean much. What matters is what this replaces, and what it prevents.

    One session with a poly-informed therapistCovers one conversation, once.
    $150–300
    A cohabitation or partnership agreementLegal fees, billable by the hour.
    $500–2,500
    Mediation if the relationship breaks down laterThe cost of not having an agreement.
    $2,000–10,000
    Building this yourself with a therapist, hourly5–8 hours at $150–300/hr.
    $750–2,400
    Books, podcasts, and workbooks combinedAnd you still have to synthesize it all.
    $60–200
    Your bespoke agreementYours to keep, and to come back to when the relationship shifts.
    $149

    Priced like one therapy session. Built to prevent the $2,000+ ones that follow. Costs above are US industry averages; your local rates may vary.

    This Isn't Just Paperwork.
    It's Political Practice.

    Rooted in a Decolonizing Framework

    We go places others won't: power, intersectionality, community obligations, safer sex cultures, privacy in unsupportive environments, and what consent looks like across relationships.

    Anti-Hierarchy by Design

    We don't assume primary partners or the relationship escalator. Our questions help you build agreements that are egalitarian, fair, and based on shared values, not inherited norms.

    A question from the Polycule Agreement

    “How do we want to discuss and unpack couple privilege within this group?”

    What the Community Says

    “We loved doing [the Relationship Agreement] and between that and our fortnightly RADAR have a level of clarity that feels like a solid foundation.”

    Sal B.

    Relationship Agreement

    “I found the relationship agreement really helpful and reassuring. During stressful times, it was calming to have something concrete to look back on and remember what we had agreed we would do and not do. It gave me a sense of direction when worries or issues came up and helped me feel more grounded throughout the relationship.”

    Lexi M.

    Relationship Agreement

    “We'd been together 8 years and thought we knew everything about each other. The questionnaire still brought up things we'd never talked about.”

    Maya & Chris

    Relationship Agreement

    Questions?
    Answered.

    Everything you need to know before building your relationship or polycule agreement.

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    Your relationship deserves a foundation built on clarity, intention, and mutual respect. Choose the agreement that fits your dynamic.

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