Sometimes the quickest way into a hard conversation is a show everyone already watched. Here you'll find reactions to films, headlines, memes, and public figures through a non-monogamy lens: what the culture gets right about polyamory, what it mangles, and what a viral moment quietly gives away.
This week on Get Schooled with Marcela Alonso, I sit down with @decolonizing.love to unpack polyamory, power dynamics, and the narratives we’ve been taught about relationships… and why they don’t always serve us. If you’ve ever questioned the “rules” of love, this one’s for you. 🎧 Episode out now on Spotify & Apple Podcasts
I love and adore Dune. Denis Villeneuve is a genius, and we’re proud he’s a Quebecer. He directed the adaptation beautifully. But Dune was written by Frank Herbert, and it’s still important to look critically at the layers of the story, because it carries a number of orientalist and imperial tropes alongside its brilliance. Herbert, George R. R. Martin, and James Cameron all work with related narrative structures. Herbert and Martin draw heavily on feudal systems built around great houses, dynastic succession, and territorial control, then layer those structures with ethnicized imperial conflict and frontier imaginaries. Their worlds feel complex and politically textured, but they are still grounded in hierarchies that echo European aristocratic power and expansionist logic. Across all three, there is also a recurring white-savior pattern: the central figure enters an Indigenous or racialized society, gains legitimacy within it, and ultimately becomes the vehicle through which that society’s future is decided. The “other” becomes the terrain through which the hero proves destiny, leadership, and moral authority. These stories remain compelling and influential, but they also reflect a long tradition of imperial storytelling. Video by @_elnorterecuerda
Or… how to be naughty… and fight fascism. About 10 years ago I started posting on here doing what I would call #knowledgetraps— they were more seductive photos of myself with a caption filled with the history of redlining, or King Leopold in the Congo Free State. Anyways I knew how to get attention but I wanted people to care about things that actually mattered. So 10 years in I realized I can still apply that same concept with things like anarchist calisthenics which always sounds a bit heady at first. For those of you who don’t know— “Anarchist calisthenics” is a concept coined by anthropologist James C. Scott in his 2012 book Two Cheers for Anarchism. It refers to small, daily acts of, often, breaking trivial laws or challenging petty authority to keep one’s “resistance muscles” fit and ready for significant, necessary acts of defiance. It is a form of mental and behavioral exercise aimed at fostering autonomy and challenging unnecessary conformity. So these are some beginner ways to practice. Of course it gets easier over time because I’ve been practicing for a few years and now I’m posting this— so it takes time to build but it’s like a muscle you can use more and more as you practice small acts of resistance. Plus, I’m gonna be old and wrinkly one day— so it’s nice to capture and share photos of me over the past few years while I still have a little bit of this essence left. Anyways, happy scrolling and happy resisting.
The Borg polycule. Found this on Reddit. Dying 😂 If you're new here: polycule (polyamory + molecule) describes a network of relationships the same way chemistry describes bonded atoms. That systems-thinking language got popular in poly spaces through the 90s and 2000s, heavily shaped by sci-fi fandom, tech culture, and futurist communities. Science fiction didn't invent the word itself, but it absolutely influenced the kind of metaphors people reached for: networks, constellations, ecosystems, molecules rather than pairs. And a lot of early polyamory thinking was genuinely inspired by Robert Heinlein. His novels repeatedly explored group marriages, non-exclusive bonding, and decentralized family structures, especially in Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress.
Grammys 2026 & 2025 poly memes
Interview with my lovely friend @zedrickzedward
Someone please make a movie about this.
I’ve intentionally not addressed the smear campaign that was organized against us last spring. I haven’t named everyone involved. Partly because it was obvious what it was: we’re the biggest polyamory education content creators in the world, and some people are envious and want to be us. I wasn’t going to tag them and let them ride our coattails. And partly because I move carefully. If we’re going to talk in depth about transformative justice and “accountability,” it can’t be like them: loud, sloppy, and uninformed. I’ve taken multiple transformative justice workshops, and I’m lucky to be friends with some of the biggest thinkers in the field. I’ve also had to practice these principles in real-life leadership as a former executive director of a drop-in serving street-involved people. And even with all that, I still take it seriously enough to move slowly, because I know there’s always more for me to learn, and I want to do it thoroughly. That takes time. Mel is only the second person I’ve named because this is such blatant co-optation of our work and it’s the second time they’ve done it. Decolonizing love isn’t owned by me; anyone can do this work, and many people do. But to try to destroy us while simultaneously stealing from us deserves to be called out. Because decolonization includes declaring selfhood in the face of violence. And as “decolonization” becomes trendy, we’re going to see more and more co-optation. We need to call it out, every time it’s this audacious. *I don’t know most of the other people in this workshop series or the organization behind it, so I have no comment about anyone else involved.
To think we posted this video less than 3 years ago to announce how we finally started an instagram account. And now we’re the most followed poly education account. Thank you everyone!🤗
Just finished watching the final season of stranger things. I can't believe folks said it was boring. I thought it was one of their best seasons!
And he eats first!? Ladies explain why y’all are accepting that? The OG video just set both feminism and polyamory backwards. Video by @lovedontjudgeshow and @quintessencethemermaid
It's telling that nobody attributes the Roman Colosseum or Greek Acropolis to aliens, yet the Egyptian pyramids, Inca walls, and Cambodia's Angkor Wat are regularly credited to extraterrestrial intervention. Video by Tiktok @ a.couple.of.queer
Would you accept an AI companion into your polycule?
Y’all remember when thousands of police training manuals were hacked last year by a group calling themselves the Puppygirl Hacker Polycule? It's like a modern take on the Spartan warrior strategy for today’s economic woes. We need a polycule heist movie immediately.
The African Jacana, found across sub-Saharan Africa, is famous for its rare polyandrous system: one female mates with several males, and the males do all the childcare. This evolved because their lake habitats are so resource-rich that producing eggs costs the female very little, and, since they’re birds, either sex can incubate eggs equally well. The real bottleneck in reproduction becomes how quickly each male can raise a brood, so females compete for males instead of the reverse. Each male ends up incubating and rearing his own nest of chicks, and they’ve even developed adaptations like scooping their babies under their wings to carry them to safety. Polyandry in the animal world is uncommon, but it does appear in a few human cultures too, such as in Nepal, parts of North India, Papua New Guinea, and Nigeria. Video by @anisa_nandaula
I swear every major city in the West thinks it's the centre of polyamory. People in Montréal swear “everyone is poly now.” An app developer once told me Toronto, where we’re based, has the highest number of polyamorists per capita. Meanwhile, our own community data shows the biggest concentrations of followers are in order: Melbourne, New York, Los Angeles, Berlin, Delhi, Rio de Janeiro, and Cape Town. My theory? Polyamory is growing wherever progressive, queer, and creative cultures thrive. And honestly, I’m thrilled to see how big it’s becoming in lesbian communities. I’m old enough to remember the days when being a poly femme meant dealing with a lot of biphobia in lesbian spaces. Love that the zeitgeist shifted. So what do you think, is poly becoming the new norm among lesbians? And where have you seen the biggest poly scenes? Video from Tiktok content creator @ lily0e
How will AI and androids reshape romantic relationships? Honestly, I’m still sitting with that question. Gary Vee is extremely optimistic about how AI robots might “strengthen” marriages. And sure, you can point to research showing that swinger marriages tend to last longer, novelty and openness can stabilize certain dynamics. But my concern is less about the tech itself and more about what happens when you unleash it without guardrails. We’ve already seen what a lack of safeguards did to social media: amplified misogyny, radicalization, loneliness, polarization. That’s the blueprint. So I’m not as rosy about the idea that AI will automatically improve our intimate lives. Narrow AI with real protections? Maybe. Anything beyond that? I’m skeptical. What is interesting is how quickly this conversation is moving. We talk about AI in the context of war, economics, labour and we all just quietly assume people will eventually be having sex with AI. But I hadn’t really paused to think about the intersection of non-monogamy and AI until Gary’s interview. Imagine a polycule where one of the “partners” is an AI robot. How would agreements work? What counts as reciprocity? Would jealousy feel different? Would it even be ethical? I don’t have the answers yet, but I think these are the kinds of questions our generation is going to have to wrestle with in real time. Would love to hear your thoughts about this topic in the comments. 💖 Want more clarity in your connections? Try our Relationship Agreement Generator, also in the bio.
What if Drake was one of us? There's a meme trending of writing as if one was Drake. It was so silly I had to try it. What else would poly Drake say? 💖 Want more clarity in your connections? Try our Relationship Agreement Generator, also in the bio.
The UAE and the African Union have been discussing trade recently, and it’s good to see Somalia, a nation that has been ravaged by war for decades, standing up to defend Sudan. Africa should not be trading with any neo-colonizers. The conflict in Sudan is tied to the UAE’s attempt to control Sudan’s gold resources. The UAE’s number one export is gold, yet it produces none, while Sudan is one of the world’s largest gold producers. The fighting in Sudan, between the national army and a heavily armed faction called the Rapid Support Forces (RSF), has taken more than 150,000 lives and displaced over 14 million people as of November 2025. The UAE is deeply involved in fueling this conflict. Video from tiktok @ Modtv 💖 Want more clarity in your connections? Try our Relationship Agreement Generator, also in the bio.
A great book on being polyamorous in the second half of life is Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships Paperback by Kathy Labriola 💖 Want more clarity in your connections? Try our Relationship Agreement Generator, also in the bio.
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